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Jun 22Liked by Johnny Bowman

I’m glad you wrote this piece, Johnny. You said you hope someone comes along and markets this active listening. For me, I’m a “yeah, maybe”. I say maybe because what I believe we humans need is modeling. If anything is done with regard to this, it would be more active modeling of active listening.

You also said this-“People like feeling emotions, and these strategies are designed to soften or change emotions. “. Well, also, maybe. 😉. The reality is humans NEED to process (feel/experience) emotions. Think of the extreme emotions around fleeing from danger. Those energies are in our nervous systems. They need “shaken out” just as other animals do. Our cognitive abilities are SO powerful, it’s possible to “think” them away. In the end, the space, the witnessing, and the ability to allow the “lactic acid” of our sensing (feeling) physiology to process and experience them. One of the things about Rogers that’s not spoken of in your article is his “positive due regard” for the person sitting across from him. Check out the Gloria tapes for the warmth and presence that he is.

Thanks brother! Awesome stuff. Keep Going. Love your content, your courage, and vulnerability.

“Roddy”

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